I have been married for almost twenty-seven years. You’d think by now that I’d have this marriage thing down pretty well, especially since I spend so much time writing and talking to others about building a strong marriage. In fairness my wife tells me that I have improved over the years. I’m grateful for that. But, she recently shook my paradigm with a single sentence. She looked me squarely in the eyes and said, “Remember, that I am also a daughter.”
I have one daughter. Her name is Kyrsten. As she goes through her teen years at a pace that just feels too fast, I already lament the day that she will soon bid us farewell. Where has the time gone? I place tremendous value on the importance of fathers spending quality time with our daughters. Fathers may be the single most influential person in the daughter’s self-perception.
In her important book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 secrets every father should know (affiliate link), Dr. Meg Meekers says “Whatever outward impression she gives, her life is centered on discovering what you like in her, and what you want from her. She knows you are smarter than she is. She gives you authority because she needs you to love and adore her. She can’t feel good about herself until she knows that you feel good about her. So you need to use your authority carefully and wisely. Your daughter doesn’t want to see you as an equal. She wants you to be her hero, someone who is wiser and steadier and stronger than she is.” A daughter wants her dad to be her hero.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android |
- Featured Presentation: Five Biblical Lessons to Keep Your Marriage Fresh
- Resources Mentioned:
- Lesson Principle: You can’t live today’s marriage on yesterday’s manna.
You can find the full blog post on this topic at haroldarnold.com/marriagemanna
One study of 3000 couples identifies five top problems reported by these frustrated couples:
- Lack of spontaneity
- Lack of romance
- Terrible sex life
- No time to give each other attention
- Lack of time to talk
This disappointing state of marriage reminds me of the biblical account of the Hebrew people during their wilderness experience after escaping the slavery of Egypt.
In examining the Exodus account, I believe there are five lessons there instructing us on how to keep our marriage fresh and perpetually extend its expiration date.
5 lessons to keep your marriage fresh
- Lesson #1: Know that God will give supernatural provision for the journey
- Lesson #2: Follow God’s instructions
- Lesson #3: Remember from what God brought you
- Lesson #4: Gather what you need for each day
- Lesson #5: Keep it fresh
My prayer is that these five lessons will give fresh insight that will elevate your marriage to another level.
Leave me a comment and let me know what other parallels you see between this account of the Hebrew people and our own marriage today.
Please do me a huge favor and click HERE to go to iTunes and leave me a rating and review. It will only take 2 minutes of your time. And, it means so much to me. And, just for you, I’ll give you a shout out on the next show.