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LYH96: How to Keep Your Marriage in MOTION

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  • Featured Presentation: How to Keep Your Marriage in MOTION

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Faith in Focus: Salt and Light

(2 Thessalonians 3:11-13)
“We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the food they eat. And as for you, brothers and sisters, never tire of doing what is good.”

Featured Presentation:How to Keep Your Marriage in MOTION

All marriages are in MOTION. Each couple determines which of four types of motion for their marriage and we use a boating metaphor to explain each.

  • Crazy Growth – You are Sailing as a couple. You are in sync and growing. Communication and decision-making are good most of the time. Love feels easy.
  • Slow Growth – You are Rowing as a couple. Things are positive and moving forward. But, it takes deliberate work to make it happen. Things feel good but they don’t feel easy.
  • Slow Decline – You are Drifting as a couple. You feel like you are married living single much of the time. There is a lack of deliberate attention to becoming better as a couple. Things aren’t horrible but you feel like you are pulling away from each other. Intimacy is strained.
  • Crazy Decline – You are Sinking as a couple. Your marriage is on the way to emotional and/or physical separation. Very little, if anything, is going well. Everything feels strained.
 Achieving and maintaining Crazy Growth requires that you focus on six areas as a couple.
  • M – MOTIVE
  • O – OBSTACLES
  • T – TOGETHERNESS
  • I – INTIMACY
  • O – Others
  • N – NOW

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LYH90: The 7 Rings of Marriage with Jackie Bledsoe

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  • Featured Presentation: The 7 Rings of Marriage with Special Guest, Jackie Bledsoe

Faith in Focus: “Love & Respect”

“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

Featured Presentation: The 7 Rings of Marriage

Special Guest: Jackie Bledsoe

In this episode I discuss the following important topics and much more with my special guest:

  • Why do spouses feel alone?
  • How can the good and the bad stuff of marriage moves your marriage higher?
  • Why is transparency is the key to marital growth
  • Why couples must think about marriage from a developmental perspective
  • How can strong couples mentor other marriages? and, much much more…

If you have any questions, just leave it in the comments for this episode or leave a voicemail on my website

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The 20% Commitment that Yields 80% Growth In Your Marriage

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Great marriages don’t just happen. They are co-created—with each spouse contributing 100% to its success. Today I met a couple that has been married 48 years. They said the secret is that he gives 100% and she gives 110%. We laughed. But, they tapped a central truth. Great marriages go all in. These couples are rewarded with a deep sense of happiness and attachment that feels almost spiritual in nature. We all wish for this kind of marriage. Its what we dream about when we first say “I do”. But, for many of us it now feels unrealistic—just too lofty and expectation given where things are currently. But, what if it only took 20% to claim your great marriage? And, that 20% is well within your reach—if you want it.

Most of us are familiar with the well-known Pareto Principle (also known as the 80-20) rule. We’ve seen it applied to many contexts. You may have heard in the workplace that 20% of the people do 80% of the work.

You may have heard it in the church context where 20% of the people give 80% of the donations.

Have you ever thought about the application to your marriage?

In my experience working with couples, I’ve discovered a profound application of the 80-20 rule that is particularly encouraging for those who are losing hope that their marriage will ever be what they dreamed. Twenty percent of what you put into your marriage is responsible for 80% of what you get out of it.