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Great marriages don’t just happen. They are co-created—with each spouse contributing 100% to its success. We all wish for this kind of marriage. Its what we dream about when we first say “I do”. But, for many of us it now feels unrealistic—just too lofty and expectation given where things are currently. But, what if it only took 20% to claim your great marriage? And, that 20% is well within your reach—if you want it.
Most of us are familiar with the well-known Pareto Principle (also known as the 80-20) rule. We’ve seen it applied to many contexts. You may have heard in the workplace that 20% of the people do 80% of the work.
In my experience working with couples, I’ve discovered a profound application of the 80-20 rule that is particularly encouraging for those who are losing hope that their marriage will ever be what they dreamed. Twenty percent of what you put into your marriage is responsible for 80% of what you get out of it.
I’d like to suggest that adopting the following four beliefs is the most important 20% you can do for your marriage. It’s more important than taking communication skills workshops. It’s more important than visiting a financial planner to agree on a budget. It’s even more important than setting your shared goals.
Four Beliefs to Transform Your Marriage
Belief #1: You are in my life to shape me into who God created me to be
Belief #2: You deserve reckless grace
Belief #3: Your needs and desires are as important as my own
Belief #4: Small steps will transform our marriage
You can achieve 80% of what you want in your marriage by the effort that you put into practice.
Blessings on you in the process. I’m praying for you.
Leave me a comment and let me know which practice you think will be easiest and hardest. Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.
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