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How to Raise Your Child to be a Leader (Part 2)

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In Part 1 of this series, I made a bold, maybe even controversial, assertion that all children are natural born leaders. Accepting this claim requires us to think more clearly as to what leadership really entails. Leadership is simply the art of influence. As indicated by scripture (Ephesians 2:10) our children were created to do good words which God prepared in advance for them to do. The duty of parenting is then to create a leadership culture in your home. In Part 2, we closely examine the importance of tailoring this leadership planning based on your child’s gifts.

Based on the biblical guidance in Proverbs 22:6, parents are instructed to “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” In Part 1, we examined the first part of this instruction. What exactly does it mean to “train up a child”? As noted, it is best captured in three admonitions.

  • Teach them to know their Creator
  • Teach them to walk worthy of their Christian heritage
  • Teach them to discern and pursue their life’s purpose
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LYH65: How to Raise Your Children to be Leaders (Part 2) [Podcast]

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The duty of parenting is to create a leadership culture in your home. In Part 2 of this three part series, we closely examine the importance of tailoring this leadership planning based on your child’s gifts. Based on the biblical guidance in Proverbs 22:6, parents are instructed to”Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” In Part 1, we examined the first part of this instruction. This episode dives deeper in examining a key qualifier in how a parent is to train up a child—which is based on knowing “the way he should go”.  This qualification is critical because it gets to the uniqueness of your child. You cannot employ a same size fits all approach to parenting.
Here are the five ways to train up a child in the way he should go.
  • Step 1: Follow the signs
  • Step 2: Support core subjects
  • Step 3: Focus on strengths
  • Step 4: Push more social
  • Step 5: Embrace the struggle
Be sure to tune in next week for part 3 of this series where we will focus on the final part of this verse, “and when he is old he will not depart from it”.  Looking forward to sharing these insights with you.

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How to Raise Your Children to be Leaders (Part 1)

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Are you raising your children to be leaders? For years, my literal prayer has been that God bless my children to be leaders in their generation. At first, my wife pushed back saying “who says that they want to be leaders?” I understood her question and her point. She did not want me to project my own aspirations onto our children. She wants them to become who God intends for them to be not necessarily who I want them to be. And, she didn’t want them to feel pressured to pursue leadership. But, my wife was missing a premise that many other parents miss as well. To truly understand leadership is to grasp that within every child is a natural born leader. A primary parenting job is to pull your children’s leader nature forward. That is what it means for us as parents to be leaders of our respective homes. In this first of a three-part series, I will address this important topic with a particular faith-based lens to show you your role in bringing the leader forth in your children.

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LYH64: How to Raise Your Children to be Leaders (Part 1)

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The Case for Natural Born Leaders

The biblical book of Ephesians (2:10) phrases it this way, “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”  In other words, the good works of your children and mine are a God thing. And, good works are always about influencing others towards the kingdom of God.

Leadership Begins at Home

Leadership development must begin in the home at the earliest ages because these are the years when a child’s self-perceptions are being formed. I firmly believe this principle is rooted in the well known biblical proverb, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6).

As parents, it is our job to keep their eyes focused on the spiritual purpose that is their birthright. Hence, we see the Proverbs 22:6 encouragement to “train up a child” has three pedagogical elements:

  • Teach them to know their Creator
  • Teach them to walk worthy of their Christian heritage
  • Teach them to discern and pursue their life’s purpose

Five Steps to “Train up your child”

  • Step 1: Start Early
  • Step 2: Set High Expectations
  • Step 3: Show, Don’t Tell
  • Step 4: Stay Consistent
  • Step 5: Reward Desired Behavior

What does “train up a child” mean to you? In what ways has this been easy or difficult for you? I would love to hear your comments.

Be sure to check back for part 2 of this series where we will focus on the next part of this verse, “Train up a child in the way he should go”.  Looking forward to sharing these insights with you.

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LYH63: How to Develop a Listen Habit at Home [PODCAST]

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The Listening Habit
  • H – Honor Purpose: Helping each person in the home develop into the person s/he is destined to be requires a sensitivity to the gifts of each person.
  • A – Affirm Strengths: Families that successfully develop leaders within their ranks focus on affirming strengths. Pay attention to what each person does well. Then, cultivate that to a level of expertise. In other words, help their good get better.
  • B – Believe Bigger: Encouragement is fertilizer for the human soul. It is pushing one another to next level of performance through affirmation not guilt or other punitive measures.
  • I – Invest Emotionally: Listening is an act of empathy—an emotion. Emotional investment knits hearts around a shared goal—reaching one’s true potential.
  • T – Talk Last: Talking is overrated. When you are talking, you are less able to fully consider what is going on around you. Talking gets in the way. If you talk last, people will increasingly value what you say.
So, there you have the five tactical steps to develop the listen habit in your home. Leave me a comment to share your thoughts.
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