LYH116: If It Ain’t Broke, Break It


Show Agenda

  • Featured Presentation: If It Ain’t Broke, Break It
  • Transformational Resources:
    In this episode, Dalia and I discuss the following important topics:
    • The six signs that your marriage is “too good to grow”
    • How and why to move your marriage to the express lane
    • The right way to break your marriage
    • Why you cannot settle for good enough in marriage
    • and, much much more.

Faith in Focus: “The Strength of Weakness”

(2 Corinthians 12:9-10)
“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Featured Presentation: If It Ain’t Broke, Break It

In 2 Corinthians 12:7-10, the Apostle Paul mentions four purposes for his weaknesses. Many couples struggle in marriage as each tries to assert their strengths to control and manipulate the marriage to look like each one prefers. What manifests is an overt or passive power struggle. This Corinthian scripture is an important guide for Christian couples in that it shows that your strengths are not what most define your identify as as a Christ follower or as a Christian couple. Rather, the proper use of weakness plays a pivotal role in the trajectory of your marriage.
The Apostle Paul’s four purposes for weaknesses as reflected in this Corinthians passage is as follows:
  1. “To keep me from becoming conceited” (verse 7).
  2. “[Christ’s] power is made perfect in weakness” (verse 9).
  3. “So that the power of Christ may rest upon me” (verse 9).
  4. “When I am weak, then I am strong” (verse 10).

Far too many Christian couples have settled for “good enough” marriages. It’s unfortunate because too many have settled outside of the “promised land” of what their marriage potential could be. Couple are settling for good when God has invested them with potential for greatness. I believe that there are several signs that your marriage is “too good to grow”.

The Signs that Your Marriage is “Too Good to Grow” 

  • Your goals are underwhelming
  • Your emotional intelligence is shallow
  • Your vulnerability is veiled
  • You settle for sex over intimacy
  • Your interaction is more functional than transformational
  • You worship from your fears more than your faith
  • Which promise speaks most to you today?

Finally, I want to encourage your to break your marriage–the right way. Here are the seven ways that I would advise you to break it.

  • Break from the pack
  • Break your selfishness and pride
  • Break the negative communication cycle
  • Break the routine
  • Break down your needs and goals
  • Take a Break
  • Break the Bank (The Trust Bank that is)

Finally, ask yourself this question, “Is my good enough marriage standing in the way of my great marriage?” If the answer is “Yes”, let me know how I can pray for you.

I’d love to hear your thoughts about this episode.

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